Should You Get Back With Your Ex?

Now its safe to say that everyone has an ex. For whatever reason you just could not get along together and so split up.

 The break up could come as be an abrupt clean break with neither of you meeting ever again, or stretch over a period of time with little meetings stretching the break up on until you both agree to it being the final meeting.

 However either way a physical break does not mean you have gotten over your ex, and is quite common for people not to have gotten over their ex for quite some time.

During this time you might think about your ex, feel like contacting them again to meet up, or even ask them to be “friends” with you, simply because you don’t want to let go entirely and hope to hang onto something with them. They may or may not accept your proposal to be “friends” with you. If they do accept then you would both be and continuing to drag your “relationship” along with no real ending. If the relationship was painful before then you would just be continuing the pain and dragging it on. If they say no then because it was you that wanted to maintain a connection with them then you would feel rejected and feel additional hurt.

 Once you no longer have contact then later you will feel lonely, then think about all the good times you had with your ex, then think about getting back with your ex.

You will either consciously forget about the reason why you broke up in the first place or reason that it will be different this time because you would now develop ways to handle the situation and not let it get out of hand.

 So should you get back with your ex? Well think about the following:

·         You obviously broke up with your ex because of a big issue that you both could not resolve. Many people are willing to overlook and ignore small issues so you had obviously broke up over big issues.

·         Has anything changed now?

·         More importantly has that big issue and difference gone away? If not then the issue is still there it will be the same story again and end up with the same result.

·         Usually it is a fundamental difference in your human nature that is the problem like different goals or values that would be significant enough to cause a break up.

 So I would say DO NOT get back with your ex no matter how tempting it is and how lonely you are now. Even if your ex agreed to get back, nothing would have changed even though you would both be making an effort again at the restart. Basically you will be back into the same situation you were as those differences were fundamental enough to have caused a break up in the first place, and those differences were fundamental to your human natures.

Also by trying to cling onto a relationship with someone that isn’t really compatible with you, you are wasting time that could be better spent finding a partner that is truly compatible with you. You will basically be missing out on opportunities and meeting better partners.

Therefore best not to get back with your ex. Assign them to your dating history and learn from that experience instead and they are now another type you should avoid.