Do Dating Sites Really Work?
With our busy lives many have turned to online dating as a way to date more efficiently and also because we don’t have the time to go out to meet people. Because of this dating websites and apps like Tinder have become very popular.
A typical dating website or app works by putting up your profile which includes your age, location, your job, your interests and what you are after in a partner. You may also include your photo on your profile. Prospective dates then read your profile and look at your picture to see if they are interested in what they see, and if they feel you have enough in common. Others like the tinder app only really base attraction and interest on the photo so its basically looks only.
Advantages
The main advantage of online dating is that it expands your pool of potential dates. You will meet and can date people you would otherwise never meet mostly because you will never cross paths with them otherwise. Also because of the potential amount of dates you can get, you do not have to put up with an unsatisfactory date as there is probably another date request in your inbox when you get home. However this can also be a disadvantage as then you no longer value the people you meet as you once did if you met the old fashioned way.
Does online dating work?
Well some swear by online dating, some swear at it. The ones that love online dating are the few lucky ones that happen to find their forever partner on it, as the marriage success rate of online dating websites are very low. Those that don’t like it or find its not for them are usually those that did not have any luck on them.
I find there are a few shortcomings of online dating. That is because everyone of course wants to appeal to as many dates as possible, this leads to them not being totally honest and just write a profile of they think would have the widest appeal in order to catch the attention of the most potential suitors. If you have seen online dating profiles, have you notice how all the interests and goals are very similar?
Therefore because people are so used to seeing those and they have been conditioned by society that those are what appeals, the profiles that are honest then look boring in comparison and don’t get picked.
The other thing is whether people really understand what they need. People usually think what they want is also what they need. But is that really what they need?
There is a big difference between the two. What you want often isn’t the same as what you need and doesn’t last but what you need will.
Therefore there may be potential dates there that are perfect for you but because they don’t fit into your idea of what “your type” is, you will not take a look at them or make contact with them.
I know cases where could tell that they would get along with a candidate so message them but they did not accept their invitation. I guess because it wasn’t their type? So it is this lack of knowledge of what people need in a partner that makes them fail to recognise a potential great partner, and also the reason why online dating has such a low success rate. For potentially truly compatible partners would still fail to connect due to this situation.
