True Reason Why Women Change After Marriage
Now how many of you have heard of the saying:
Men marry women hoping they won’t change but they do; women marry men hoping they will change but they don’t.
Yes…some of you nodding there…
Many find this to be very true, and puzzling. Lots of psychologists and relationship experts try to explain why this is the case with a multitude of different answers. The simple truth is that women are usually both more intuitive and flexible than men. As they are more intuitive they are more likely to know consciously or unconsciously that they and their partner are not really compatible. But because they are usually keener on marriage than men, they are also flexible enough to put in more effort and make the necessary adjustments in order to make it work so the marriage can happen.
However, they also hope that the man would change after the marriage so that it can work for real. Men are usually not aware that there are any incompatibility issues, so take the changed personality presented by women as who they really are. Since that is the personality they’re compatible with, they hope the woman doesn’t change. However, it takes effort to put up a façade of being something you are not and you have to consciously do it and keep remembering to do it. It gets tiring after a while and then you have to stop doing it and once you do then your real personality asserts itself. Therefore, the inevitable consequence is that women will change, because after a while everyone needs to revert back to being themselves, and hence problems then arise.
When Chris met Julia he found her to be a fun-loving girl and they did many fun activities together. Julia was actually quite a homely girl, but had got caught up in the relationship and expectation to be energetic like Chris. Julia tried to keep it up to make him happy, but had hoped that he would eventually settle down. After they married, Julia felt the pressure to be energetic all the time lessen, so she started to become more herself. To Chris it seemed that Julia had suddenly changed, just like that, after marriage. She wasn’t so keen on going out and having fun all the time. She was always more concerned about the mundane things wanting to stay in during the weekend and do gardening instead of going hiking like they used to. He wondered whatever happened to the Julia he fell in love with.
Julia didn’t change, nor did she maliciously try to trap Chris into marriage. She had done what many people all over the world have done — tried to be someone she wasn’t — she tried to be the person she thought Chris needed to make the relationship work. This is another reason why you have to be yourself and find someone that will love you for yourself, for you cannot be happy if you are not able to be yourself.
